Normally I wouldn’t blog about something like this, as I don’t like spelling things out for anyone, but since so many hundreds of attempts in recent years to talk to me have only made it to the verge of being started, I shall. I am doing this because I want you to succeed. I am doing this because I sense there is so much more we are meant to share, and I want that to happen. I can tell you do, too.
For years, people with curious vibes and the clear intent to initiate contact have kept planting themselves in my path no matter where I go, or ‘orbiting’ me when I am out somewhere; they make their presence there plain as day, and keep coming back as if to slowly build up their courage for something more. They seem to really want me to notice them, but always seem shy or hesitant to introduce themselves, excepting one or two so far. I keep getting the feeling that it is both our ‘sides’ checking out and pre-screening the other, scouting, wanting to open up, but being not quite ‘there’ yet. This has happened on 6 continents, 57 countries, and all 50 states so far, as well as out at sea in the middle of the oceans. Why this particular trend, though?
I really wish these individuals would just say hi and what’s on their minds. I’m perfectly happy to converse and adventure with them. I’ve been looking forward to meeting and hanging out with them all my life (and have only politely steered clear when they were with someone who gave off a lesser vibe). I even designed the zero-pollution city, Inisfree, precisely for that, which I hope they’ll enjoy working with me to build.
Listen. I get it. I’ve been there; shy, and awaiting necessary training and practice in good introductions, or even signs such as affirmative body language to proceed further, hoping I meet and exceed expectations; I’m a normal person just like the rest of you. Introductions and chats with new people, like public speaking in general, can be scary. Sometimes my heartbeat still picks up before a speech, even if I absolutely know it by heart and really look forward to giving it. So take your time, everyone out there who was on the verge of meeting me but just couldn’t make yourselves take that final step forward; take the time you need and offer me your handshake when you are ready. I’ll be happy when you do.
Females especially need to hear this the most. Why do I single out their gender? Because I’ve observed them keeping their eyes on me and orbiting me the most, and all too often they give up and get upset for some reason, expecting me to read their minds, not thinking about the fact that all they were doing was staring at me. And I absolutely can tell what they want me to do. I wouldn’t say I can read their minds, but I know what they are feeling and why. I know they want me to be the one to start whatever they intend, saving them the push into courageous mode, which can be daunting for anyone. I don’t do that anymore, though. I expect and require more from them and anyone, and should; I know they have it in them, and I know they’ll feel a thousand times more accomplished when they dig deep and summon it. I know I felt that way when I was guided to.
Better communication skills are called for. After years in the military and other professional sectors, I’m just not going to cave and cater to anyone’s sloppy elementary hopefulness, no matter how they show up or what vibe and looks they are sending my way. I’m not asking for a snappy salute, but I am carrying on with my daily work until an upbeat greeting and request for my time is made. You all looked very well presented, so finish presenting yourselves by walking up to me if you really want to know more. It’s easy, and it makes you look like a champion. Aren’t you? You are. Show me now. Show yourselves, too. You and I both want to see it, and it is time.
I’m extra impressed if you do this on your own, without a friend, guard, or other person in tow for security or emotional support (and I’ve walked clear around even goddess-level beauties who stood close to a friend or other escort which I could tell was there in that capacity). Think about how a bold and classy solo approach makes you look to me compared to the alternative and the norm. It makes you look like a god. No one else is doing that right now. Even if you stumble through some of your first words while you get your bearings and adjust to all that I am, it’s still outstanding, much appreciated, and pleasantly remembered. Do it.
(And I’m not saying I’m ‘all that’, and I’m certainly not saying I’m better than any of you. I’m just acknowledging the fact that I can seem intense. Even some SEALs have told me that –when I wasn’t trying to be. Some people need time to sense that I am a lot more approachable than first appearances suggest.)
My bottom line is this: I spent decades being the one to initiate everything, and to establish a course and momentum. I feel it is time to give others that opportunity, and I am waiting to see which people will enjoy taking it. I am looking for people brave and humble enough to be the ones to initiate. Do so. You’ll be glad you did. I’m a really chill guy once you take that important step. I want to do great things with you. Try me.
